We were skyping, Sarah and I. We've been maintaining our friendship like that for years. She was travelling the world for a while, then settled in Asia, in a timezone a few hours behind mine.
We always talk about our passions, our drives, our ambitions. We also talk about a lot of women's issues. She has been a supporter of my business related ideas for as long as I can remember and we have been each other's sounding boards for as long as that.
When I have fails, falls, successes, I know I can safely share those with her. She won't judge me for my epic fails. She won't resent me for my achievements. She's also a founding member of my women circle.
I think of her as an important part of my circle of power. That circle isn't very big but, fuck, it's powerful!
It's diverse in age and experience. But we have one thing in common. We know that when shit goes down, the circle willl hold you up.
From the loss of children, to suicide, to relationship breakdowns to mental and physical illness, we've done it all.
So when Sarah said something about building a space where women are supporting eachother instead of being pitted against eachother, I knew I had to write about my circle.
When you have a circle of women who have your back, you feel powerful. You feel heard and you feel seen.
It took me years to find these women and we have had our fare share of impostors who wanted a piece of what we had as a circle.
At the end of the day, what remained are the ones who, to the untrained eye are regular people, but to me, are incredible and powerful women.
These are the kind of women you want in your circle of power.
Women, who understand that your gifts are unique and will not get jealous when you shine like fucking diamond. Because they know they have their own shining to do.
Women, who are compassionate and deep and will hold you the space to express pain, joy, happiness, anger and all the big emotions.
Women, who stand up for you fiercely when you can't stand up for yourself and shield you, even if from yourself sometimes.
Women, who know when to cry or laugh with you and won't question you why you're doing either.
Women who have gotten over their own bullshit and won't put it on you because they understand that you have enough load to carry.
Women who encourage you, not just with words but also with actions to express your own power to its full extent without feeling guilt or shame.
These are the women you need in your circle of power. Once you gather these treasures, you have a sacred circle. A safe container to be yourself and push your boundaries. Because you know that even if you fall, there is someone who will pick you up and dust you off.
When we have that environment, we feel confident in our stride forward and are more likely to push our own limits. When one member of the circle moves forward, everyone in the circle moves forward.
That is how the power grows, by sharing your blessings.
Share your blessing in your own power circle. Join the Women of Power network for growing your power in being seen and heard. It's an online temple space for #womenofpower and we are widening the circle. There is a space there just for you.