There are some of us who stay in our sandboxes because we don't want to upset those who are in the same sandbox with us. This could be the people we went to school with, our circle of friends and even our family.
If you're doing better than others around you, you might feel like you're being disloyal to them. That your success in whatever it is you're doing is an act of betrayal towards the people who aren't doing as well as you.
This puts a huge stopping block in front of you. You don't want to betray the people you love, you don't want to make them feel like you're not in their sandbox anymore.
So you do everything you can to stay in that sandbox with them. You push away opportunities that would help you get out of that safe zone. Eventually opportunities just stop coming your way altogether.
You lie to yourself. You convince yourself that you like where you are, that you don't want to achieve more, that you are in fact in your happy place.
The resentment that develops underneath that, and it will, manifests itself in various ways in your body. Stress, illness, fatigue.
You probably think that if you're not working towards a goal, there is nothing to cause you stress or exhaustion.
What really happens though is you spend your energy in resisting reaching out towards the abundance and success that is yours. You do that in order to stay loyal to the people around you.
When you resists something, it actually takes more energy than working towards it.
Hence the stress and fatigue.
This often happens when you have ambitions that no other person in the family has and you start taking steps towards achieving it. Then the guilt sets in about punching above your weight.
You feel like you have two choices to make.
You either ignore that guilt and push on with your ambition or you give into it and reign yourself in.
When you make the latter choice, you are setting yourself for playing small. You believe the lie that by stepping out of line and following your drive you become a betrayer.
You convince yourself that it's easier to live with being constricted and confined to a small space than living with the guilt of betrayal.
What you don't realise is that feeling of guilt and being a betrayer are all myths we tell ourselves. We do that to keep ourselves in the safe sandbox we are used to and know so well.
Why do we hold onto a story like that?
Because we think that when we become different from what people believe us to be, they will abandon us.
You know what? Some will. There will be some who will go with you all the way to your success and there will be ones who will only go part of the way.
I have lost some friends when I pivoted and redirected my energy into my business from the attention they demanded from me on a daily basis.
I felt like the betrayer for a while. How dare I choose to leave my friends behind? How dare I selfishly invest more energy into my own development and less into their visibility stories!
This was another invisibility story I have unpacked and worked through.
I no longer use my false guilt belief about being disloyal to my friends to keep small. I released that guilt along with a few people from my life and now I am playing so much bigger.
I am visible AF with no apologies.
I have created a safe space for you to discover your stories. This is a little taste of what it will be like.