The other day I was in a funk. A visibility funk. I looked at my cache of topics in Asana that I accumulated over the last few month and thought, these are just utter and complete rubbish!
Who the hell wants to read/watch/listen to "5 minute visibility tips"?
I'm a visibility guide and I love what I do.
I love talking about what I do.
None of that reflected in anything I had scheduled in to write or talk about.
I had no inspiration.
Otherwise known as fuck all.
I am self-aware enough to know that the longer I let myself feel comfortable in that hole, the harder it will be to claw my way out of it.
This isn't my first rodeo!
So I rummaged through my "get-out-of-funk" toolbag for some solutions. There is usually something in there that gets me out of trouble.
Knowing what makes me tick and what turns me on about my business was one of the best things to discover.
Because you're not in love with your biz 24/7.
I get that.
There are parts of it that aren't all that sexy and alluring. And sometimes those things can overwhelm all that makes you feel warm and fuzzy about it.
The last thing you want to do is show up and be visible.
Especially when you don't have your heart in it.
Because your tribe will feel it and know it that you're not fully present.
So here are a few things that I have in my very special toolbag.
I have some friends who have been there pretty much from the beginning of my business journey and they know the ins and outs of what I have been through.
Grabbing a few minutes with them (or sometimes a few hours) just talking about where I am with everything helps me a lot. Finding the right words and asking the hard questions can get me really motivated. Once the stuff is unpacked and is reflected back to me from my friends, it feels like my pipes have been cleaned and I'm good to go.
Another thing I do is sit down with my journal and revisit the 4 invisibility triggers:
- I am not deserving of being seen and heard because I am faulty.
- I am not deserving of being seen and heard because I am betraying people I love.
- I am not deserving of being seen and heard because it puts a burden on the people I care about.
- I am not deserving of being seen and heard because wanting more attention/love/money/whatever makes me a bad person.
When I want to hide and not show up for my people, one of this is usually the culprit on a level that I haven't managed to become aware of yet.
Working on these invisibility triggers is not like dropping the curtain and all is revealed at once. It's more like playing pass the parcel. You never know the right time to reveal what's under the next layer until it's actually your turn with a moment's notice and under each layer there is another.
As painful this part can be, the rewards of recognising yet another visibility challenge you have overcome are well worth it.
Another thing that helps me is talking to my biz coach. A good coach is someone who can say, honestly, with hand on their heart that they have been before where you are now. Someone who just gets it even if you can't explain in concise words what is going on with you.
They are a living example of someone who has been there, done that and bought the t-shirt. But more importantly, someone who has managed to get to the other side of it.
Again and again.
One of these always works for me but for good measure I make sure I use at least two out of the three methods I listed above.
Because sometimes I need to be reminded why I'm doing what I'm doing and the road I already have behind me.
And sometimes I need to be reminded that my wisdom is unique and that it needs to be shared and that I have the right to expand into the infinite space of the universe and much as as far as I want to.